Kink Coaching That Starts With You

Kink Coaching and BDSM Coaching

Kink is a big umbrella.

A really big one. It can include fantasies, fetishes, relationship dynamics, power exchange, forms of self-expression, and yes, BDSM.

BDSM is a more specialized area within that larger world, with particular practices, dynamics, skills, negotiation, and risk considerations. Kink coaching gives us room to look at the bigger picture: what interests you, what you want to explore, how you communicate it, and what role you’d actually like kink to have in your life.

What Is Kink Coaching?

My online kink and BDSM coaching is a private, personalized space where we can talk openly about your interests, questions, challenges, and goals without assuming there’s one correct way to be kinky.

Maybe you're brand new and thinking, "Okay, I know I'm interested in something... now what?" Maybe you've been exploring for years but your interests are changing. Maybe you and a partner have discovered you're interested in very different things and need help figuring out how to talk about them.

Beginners, intermediate, and experienced kinksters are all welcome. We start with where you actually are—not where somebody thinks you should be.

Depending on what you bring to coaching, we might explore things like:

  • Understanding and exploring your interests

  • Fantasies and fetishes

  • Communicating desires with partners

  • Boundaries and negotiation

  • Navigating differences in interests

  • Power dynamics and relationship structures

  • Confidence around kink

  • Finding language for what you want

  • Exploring changing interests

  • Identifying realistic next steps

I Work With:

Individuals, Couples & Partners

You can work with me individually, as a couple, or with the partners involved in what you're trying to navigate.

For individuals, coaching can give you room to explore questions you may not have had anywhere comfortable to ask before. You don't need a partner to understand your own relationship with kink.

For couples and partners, we can work on communication, expectations, boundaries, differing interests, and finding ways to explore together that respect everyone involved. Having different desires doesn't automatically mean something is wrong. Sometimes you simply need better tools for talking about them.

A Little About Your Coach

I've been part of the BDSM lifestyle for 25 years and have spent almost a decade educating within the kink community. I'm a certified kink coach and certified sex coach, as well as an experienced BDSM and bondage educator.

I've taught topics ranging from Female Domination and feminization to beginner and bedroom bondage, shibari, suspension, and self-suspension at organizations and venues including Studio Friction, Endorphin Soup Kitchen, and Wicked Grounds.

Experience hasn't made me interested in telling people what their kink is supposed to look like. The longer I've been around, the more interesting I've found the enormous variety in what people want, why they want it, and how they choose to explore it.

Curiosity is very welcome here.

Bring me what you're curious about, what you're struggling with, or what you've been trying to figure out. We'll start there.

a person laying on the ground with their legs crossed
a person laying on the ground with their legs crossed
Book A Coaching Session
Schedule a Coaching Session

Pricing

  • Consultation — $15 15–20 minutes

  • Kink & BDSM Coaching — $75/hour

  • Private Bondage Education — $100/hour

Session Packages

  • 2 Sessions — Coaching: $142.50 • Bondage: $190

  • 4 Sessions — Coaching: $270 • Bondage: $360

  • 6 Sessions — Coaching: $382.50 • Bondage: $510

  • 8 Sessions — Coaching: $480 • Bondage: $640